Addiction is a cycle of persistent destructive behavior that enablers help to perpetuate. Enabling is assuming the responsibilities that addiction has made difficult or risky for the addict to do. This behavior may include paying credit card, rent and food bills. Enablers lie to the boss, the children or friends to protect the addict. The down side to enabling is that it also lead to dependence. The addict begins to depend on the enabler to defend them in arguments, clean up their messes, even provide the money to buy drugs or alcohol. In essence, enablers assist the addict to continue the addiction by not allowing them to experience the full consequences of the addictive behavior.
It is a natural reaction to assist a loved one when they seem to be in trouble. But when this help provides an escape from confrontation for bad behavior and failure to take responsibility for actions that bring pain and injury to oneself or others, it is no longer helping, it is enabling. People enable addiction by…
Once you get into the habit of enabling a person in addiction, it can be difficult to stop. Fear is often the predominant deterrent to halting enabling activities. We are afraid that without our help the person will end up living on the street, indulge in criminal activity, overdosing or causing a fatal accident. When seen from this perspective it is easy to justify the enabling behavior. However, the belief that you have the ability stop any of these fearsome outcomes is a false sense of power that is generated by enabling behavior. It is important to separate yourself from what you are doing to protect the individual to what the individual need in order to overcome the problem. The goal should be a return to independence for the addict rather than the constant need to be helped.
Be gentle with yourself. It may take time to fully relinquish enabling activities but it can be done. When enabling stops, the process of finding real solutions can begin. If you think you are indulging in enabling behavior call Drug Treatment Centers Ocala today at (352) 360-7348. Our counsellors are available 24 hours a day to help you to stage an intervention or discuss treatment options and services.
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